11 Vital topics of discussion before baby

11 Vital topics of discussion before baby

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This is for you if you’re newlyweds, a young couple who are considering conceiving together for the first time, or already pregnant and awaiting the arrival of your little one. From first and second hand experience, I can say that not discussing certain vital things before you go ahead and bring another life into this world can make for a stressful and/or miserable pregnancy and first few years with your baby. Those 10 months of pregnancy and first few years with your baby are some of the most cherished ones for any mom. Ask any mother. They’re the years that you wish you could bottle up and store away to enjoy again and again later on down the line.

It would be tough to find that you’re spending those precious moments arguing about things that, on any other occasion, would be mundane or even things that are extremely big but could be discussed in a different way. 

Indeed, even if you’ve known your partner for many years, it doesn’t guarantee that you know the answer to these questions. Your partner may not have considered some of these questions before and may realise that they need to think about the answers longer than you expect.

It’s true that there’s very little you can do to emotionally prepare yourself for a baby but there are other ways to prepare. After speaking with some friends, I found that the main points of conflict arose from partners not helping out enough, in-laws/extended family butting in where they were not wanted and financial restrictions. Somehow though, husbands not wanting to help out with the baby seemed to be fairly easily forgiven compared to the other points! I wonder why.

Vital discussion topics for couples

Does having a baby make a relationship stronger? Not necessarily. Infact, it can do the very opposite. Your relationship after baby could take a serious hit if you don’t have the right conversations before you go into it.

I’ve come up with a list of issues that do need to be discussed and you know I’m a fan of checklists. I suspect that it will grow in the future as I have more conversations with people and experience more  of life as a mummy myself. If you’re about to become a mother for the first time, I promise that these questions will save you an invaluable amount of time and heartache. Ideally, these are conversations to have before you even conceive, in my view. Maybe even before you get married to your partner. However, chances are, if you are reading this, you’re either already pregnant or already set on getting pregnant no matter what. These will be useful to you either way.

If you use it and it changes your perception of whether you are ready for a baby, let me know in the comments. Or email me: abby@kinunplugged.com.

What questions would you add on?

If you enjoyed this, you might find Part 2 helpful as well.

An in-depth sit-down conversation delving really deeply into your relationship thus far and where you both stand as individuals would be especially helpful and you can use my workbook – Can We Do This Baby Thing? – to do this. It’s also a fun way to learn more about your partner!

Happy contemplating!

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This Post Has 5 Comments

  1. Erin

    It is so important to fully discuss a lot of different things when having a baby! After 3 babies in 4 years, being open and honest will help when discussing your future.

  2. Jen

    These are really good questions to consider! Having a new baby can be so overwhelming. It’s good to have this discussion ahead of time!

    1. Kin Unplugged

      Thanks for visiting, Jen!

  3. Kassandra

    I agree! I fell like you’re never really ready for a baby – so many things can happen along the way. But communication is important so you are prepared the most you can be

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