Blogmas day 18: Teenage girls
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Blogmas day 18: Teenage girls

Teenagers can be really bratty. Like really really bratty. And it seems like boys and girls are bratty in different ways.

It would seem like teen boys are bratty because they don’t listen and always want to be out exploring at the risk of their own lives. The girls, on the other hand, get overwhelmed by their hormones and therefore their emotions and start to rebel against authority. Mainly authority at home. Do you remember being a teen? I barely do but I do remember feeling like I always needed a good sulk session so I must have been awful to be around. *I still feel like that sometimes*.

Chatting with my aunt last night, she confided in me about how my older cousin is going through it with her teen daughter. She’s getting some “I hate yous”, some “You don’t care about mes”, doors being banged in her face…you name it. She’s basically being emotionally abused by her own child. My aunt said “it’s normal”. I said “no, it’s not. I never acted that way”.

It’s not till after I got off the phone that I realised that I may not have been anywhere near that horrible but I had my way of showing the emotional turmoil I was going through. Like I said, I sulked a lot. Pretty sure the majority of my teenage years at home we’re spent in sulk mode. Also, as my aunt reminded me, my circumstances were probably different from my niece’s. I had many friends. A wide social circle meant that I had more options of people to spend time with than my niece has and so more people to vent to who actually understood what I was going through.

Though the age gap between myself and my two older siblings was so wide that I was alone at home with my parents for much of my teen life, I truly enjoyed my own company. And still do. Or maybe it’s because I was alone at home so much that I grew to love my own company. Either way, I enjoy being on my own or with only a couple of people around me so I would never have experienced the feelings of loneliness that my niece is experiencing.

My aunt in all her wisdom of course believes that my cousin should just brave it and ignore her daughter’s behaviours. They’ll pass when they pass. Even if it’s in five years time.

Argh.

Are you/have you had to deal with teen girl behaviours? How did you do it? Whether you were/are a mom, sister, cousin or friend?

Frankly, I don’t know how my family put up with me during those years. They’re all saints, I tell you.

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  1. Donia Varnon

    We’ve already weathered the teenage years with one daughter (three more kids to go but they’re still little for now). Teenage years can be hard for both the teenagers and the parents but there’s a few things we found that helped a lot.
    First, the book Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn. We read this at just the right time. We were struggling with our then 15 year old’s confusing behaviors and this book really opened our eyes and completely changed our relationship with her (in a good way!).
    And second, changing how we responded to her. Treating her as a human and a person capable of making her own decisions and being there for guidance instead of trying to control her. I think teaching children respect really starts with us as parents modeling respect, with them and with others.

    1. Kin Unplugged

      I’ll be looking that book to get a head start on things for us! Leading by example certainly sounds like the best way forward.

  2. Elizabeth

    I have two you g boys right now and a baby girl on the way. I was always nervous about having a daughter because of those difficult, drama-filled teenage years. I think communication is everything. Including communicating with your child about rules and even letting them pick the consequences.

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